Cj is a really good father to our little shaolin, Cyler. He is very hands on and his giving the unconditional love to our son. He is Cyler’s best friend I must say, they are buddies and playmates. He can make Cyler laugh-out-loud without exerting so much effort, oh yes, he’s very good at it. And he never fails to give time and effort to our dear son, which I love the most. Oh well, they’re both God’s gift to me and I can’t imagine my life without them. Father has a big role in raising the kids , our sons learn about being a man primarily by watching their fathers. A father’s influence on his son’s personal development is often unseen but nonetheless real.
Anyhoo, last father’s day we attended the morning mass (as usual), I really like the homily on that day and I wanted to share it with everyone. Father Ong was the mass presider at that time and his homily is about Father’s role to the family. Father Ong said that Dads play an important part in the development of their sons. The role of the father is, in fact, an important counterpart to the one played by the mother. Little boys look to their fathers for a representation of what ‘manliness’ is. He said that Father stands for the following:
The father is the most influential person in their child’s life. The first and best thing that he can teach to his child is to build his “faith” in God. Helping a son be grounded spiritually is an important role for a father. Whatever your faith tradition, help your son understand the deeper meaning of life. As a young man gets in tune with nature, God and himself, he will have a pattern in his life that will help him endure hardship and thrive personally.
Affirmation is a declaration that something is true. It simply means that when you say something to your child you must always mean it especially if its a promise. Whether we know it or not, our sons learn about being a man primarily by watching their fathers. From that they will learn how to be true to themselves, especially to others.
“There is always time for everything” is my motto in life. Time to play, time to go, time to eat, time to mingle with your friends, and last but never the least a time to your family. I do believe that no matter how hectic your schedule is you should always make sure that you’re giving your family a better and quality time. The kids excel more when their father gives them a quality time. Get involved in father-son activities. Remember, there is always time for everything. Enjoy every minute of your son’s childhood cause the next thing you know they would be opting to be on their own.
Humility signifies lowliness or submissiveness. As a young man watches his father interact with his mother, he learns about respect (or disrespect). As a father, encourage your kids to admit mistakes and teach them how to apologize. An arrogant person can never teach humility.
Teach your kids to be servants. Jesus repeatedly taught this lesson to his disciples. Be a Christ-like example to your kids, I know it’s hard to do that and nobody’s perfect in this world. But bear in mind that a father who bring his family to God will ALWAYS live in God’s way.
When they fail or sin, tell them that they can always be forgiven and accepted. As a father teach your child how to forgive and forget.
So, that’s how it goes. Again, the word “Father” stands for: Faith, Affirmation, Time, Humility, Example, and Redemption. The message is not only for the fathers but for both parents as well. It really taught me so many things and made me realized how important is the role of a Father to their family. Hope you find this post useful. 🙂